It’s the age of social media and virtual existence, where everybody is after looks and presentation, a period where a book is judged by its cover, a person’s status is judged by his or her wealth and similarly a person is liked by his or her physical attributes, as a defining principle.
We cannot deny the fact that being attracted to a pretty face and a smart body is predominant but, that does not allow us the privilege to judge any person, it would be very unfair otherwise. Among human beings – I would specifically point out the female population, which is most often targeted and criticized for their physical appearance.
God has bestowed beauty on this planet by creating us; the females, in doing so He gave each and everyone of us different features such as: being tall or short, dark or fair, healthy or skinny, blonde or brunette and many more characteristics.
[bs-quote quote=”The question that arises here is whether it is fair to judge them on their color, height or weight?” style=”style-17″ align=”center” color=”#dd0000″ author_name=”Mehreen Saqib” author_job=”YouTuber & Influencer”][/bs-quote]
Remember: Whether a woman is worthy of another person’s attention and love, should not depend on how fair her complexion is or how beautiful her face looks!
It is always her soul that distinguishes her from others. Can’t a dark skinned woman be of substance and worthy of respect? We have so many examples of such significant and influential women globally who, despite being dark colored, have noteworthy souls and aim to achieve more in life.
So the color of one’s skin cannot and should not define a person [especially women and children] or his/her emotions.
In our society and even globally a woman is the biggest critic of another woman, she considers herself perfect and others faulty. This feeling needs to be discouraged as we gradually build a society where people support each other rather than demoralize them. A female needs to be motivated and uplifted to perform better in life. If she starts thinking positively then she will be able to transfer such feelings to her off springs as well.
[bs-quote quote=”We need to understand that a woman’s color like her gender, is dependent on her genes, a baby girl born in this world can’t decide the color of her skin. God is the one who decides all the features a human should have on birth.” style=”style-17″ align=”center” color=”#dd0000″ author_name=”Mehreen Saqib ” author_job=”YouTuber & Influencer”][/bs-quote]
In later stages of life there are so many factors that effect the color of one’s skin, there could be exposure to sun rays, some health issues that directly show their affects on our face and complexion causing pimples and patches. Stress caused by studies, marriage, career or any other problems, all contribute to the dampening of one’s complexion. A girl or a woman is not to be blamed for her dark skin, pimples or patches! She should be supported well so that she can think positively about herself and carry her imperfections too.
Such pressures force us women to make up our faces in front of people just to make them like us.
Is it fair to a woman to make her feel insecure about her own self? Does it justify to make her feel conscious of her flaws which she may already be fighting off?
If a male can be accepted in his all plain without make up look then why can’t a female be liked in her original form? She should also be allowed to move in her own skin whether people around like it or not. It should be her own decision if she wants to go out in all make up look or a simpler one. She shouldn’t be judged based on layers of cosmetics she is wearing.
Similarly, being tall or short is also not in the hands of a woman, therefore, she shouldn’t be blamed if she is of a small height. People should prevent pointing their fingers on her and saying she doesn’t look good enough. This pushes her against her wishes to wear long heeled shoes. She may not be comfortable in them but to please others she has to go through such hassles to carry herself with dignity deemed proper by society. If she is taller than the average bar set by the so called judges of our society even then she is an outcast for the women who may be envious of that girl being leggy. Let a girl/woman conduct herself the way she wants to, she has every right to be comfortable with her own body. She is the one who should have the liberty to decide how to move around.
The weight of a girl is another matter of utmost concern for other women around, I don’t understand why it is considered a basic right for others to speak against someone’s personal matter regarding their appearance? A very slim girl is considered lean and not pleasant to other women’s eyes just like a healthy or a plump girl is remarked upon as heavy or chubby and at times even, over age. There maybe lots of reasons for her being over weight, maybe she has some hormonal issues that she is already dealing with along with other people’s critical remarks. It would be better to leave her on her own, she has well wishers in the form of her parents, siblings or some close friends who can advice her on her issues. The others should refrain from increasing her tensions and concerns.
We have so many examples of female celebrities who are regularly being body shamed, either they are commented on being too skinny or too healthy. Take an example of Hollywood super model Gigi Hadid, who is no stranger to having her body commented on by the public.
Some people have accused the model for being too thin while others have said she’s too curvy for the runway. Despite these comments, Hadid stresses that she loves her body and that “body-shamers” should mind their own business. It’s not their body, after all.
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Moreover, our own actresses also have to go through a lot to look fit and pleasing to the public. Why don’t we let them look like their own selves?
Everyday is a struggle for them to look their best and slim to the camera lens so that their fans are happy with their face and body. Pakistani actor, Hareem Farooq, is one such female celebrity who has had to shed multiple pounds to work in this industry. She has shown a lot of strength undergoing weight loss regimes to gain positive comments from us.
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A girl may be fond of eating healthy hence remain healthy, if she is comfortable with her body then we have no right to shame her on her weight and eating habits. This pressure forces a girl to go on different diets, sometimes even starving herself, and what is the result? She might get her desired weight at the cost of other health issues, lesser glowing skin and missing out on her favorite foods.
It would be best to build a society where we support and encourage each other and think positively about our selves and others around us. Everybody has a right to feel content about themselves to carry out their aims in the right direction.
[bs-quote quote=”Don’t let a woman feel depressed about her looks, let her emerge as a woman with a personality and a soul.” style=”style-17″ align=”center” color=”#dd0000″ author_name=”Mehreen Saqib” author_job=”YouTuber & Influencer”][/bs-quote]
Remember: Need of the hour is to support each other rather than letting others down.
For detailed analysis you can watch my video. Also, share your thoughts with us in the comments section. Do you think body-shaming is justified or should we let go of this negativity for the progress of society.
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